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Letting Go Again, Dealing with Death and Loss

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Letting Go Again, Dealing with Death and Loss

Letting Go Again, Dealing with Death and Loss

April 23, 2019 Posted by 7thyearproductions@gmail.com Stories of My Life, Uncategorized 66 Comments

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This is a Strange Post to Write!

This is kind of a strange blog post to write, I will confess it from word one. I realized I needed to let go of something. Something really simple and small. But as I started to do it, it really caught me off guard. In fact, I cried at the thought of it. And could not understand why. But as I thought about it I realized, I needed to be letting go again, and I didn’t want to.

Letting Go Again

Letting Go Again

My Father has been gone for a long time. Really long. He passed away 20 years ago this April. At the time, we dealt with all the regular things that you go through when someone you love dies. And in total truthfulness, I thought that I was completely healthy about losing my Dad. Until, I started decluttering my house again. And then, a piece of my Dad, really a very peripheral piece stared at me in the face. At that point, I realized that I needed to be letting go again, and deal with the death of my Dad, one last time.

I have been working little by little…

I have been working through my house little by little and doing a much more aggressive decluttering than I have in the past. Yes, I have been influenced by Mari Kondo, and I love watching her show. I love the concept of only keeping things around that bring my home joy. It is interesting through this process how many items I have found that not only don’t bring me joy but are kind of like long unhealthy strings to the past. Mostly these are items that I feel I must keep, or someone will be unhappy that I let them go. I have had to let go of a lot of them during this decluttering, and although it might cause a momentary stress, I feel better with my shelves being clean, cupboards well organized, and not having to carry so much into the future.

I wrote last year about Cleaning Out My Closet. As I have said, I do this very regularly. I like my spaces to be clutter free, and functional. So, as I was looking into my closet I went about a seasonal cleaning. I pulled a few items out, sat back on my bed and looked at my work. And then as I stared into my closet, I realized that there is a random artifact of my life that really has no reason to be in my closet. It belonged to my Dad. He did not bequeath it to me. In fact, it was in his closet when he died and for some reason, I put it in mine, and there it has stayed. For 20 years. And I don’t want to throw it away. And I stopped decluttering for the moment. Really, for a week, until I decided to circle back and face it.

So What Exactly Is it?

So, what was it you ask? A large box  with a bottle of classic Scotch Whiskey inside. I looked and it is specifically Johnny Walker Black Label Special Whiskey. I am sure to someone who drinks whiskey that means something. And probably, someone in the world will read this and question why I would throw it away. The funny thing is that I don’t drink. And really, my Dad didn’t drink. Growing up we did not have alcohol in our home unless my Mom was trying a recipe that included cooking sherry, or occasionally she would make stew with red wine. But other than that, it just was not a thing in our home. So, how did the bottle of Scotch get into our home?

Letting Go Again

Letting Go Again

My Dad often traveled all over the world for work. And I was really proud of the work that he did.  He told me at one point that it was a custom that most of the men carried flasks with some form of alcohol and they would share a swig after a meeting every now and then. So, at some point, on one of his work trips, someone gave my Dad this bottle of Scotch Whiskey as a gift. He brought it home, put it in his closet about 30 years ago, and there it sat for 10 years. Unopened. Until it moved to my closet and sat there for the last 20 years.

Truthfully, I don’t want to let go again

So, why when it really didn’t mean anything to my Dad, and I don’t drink Scotch is it so hard for me to let go of? When I soul searched, I realized that by letting go of the bottle of Scotch, I would be letting go of my Dad, again. And truthfully, I don’t want to. I still miss him sometimes. Do you know what I mean? For instance, when my kids do something cool, and I want him to know. Or as my granddaughter continues to grow, and explore, and learn, and share, I want him to know her. Or truthfully, when I do something big, I want him here to congratulate me. For instance, today I passed an accounting final. It was really hard, and he would be proud of me. I miss him.

There are other times I miss him too. For instance, he had an amazing sense of humor, and loved to laugh. He also loved funny tricks. Like the time he went into his office, which was a pretty serious place, with a dinosaur tie on. Or, when he would walk out in the morning pretending to be ready for work but would have shaved half his mustache and beard off. That kind of thing cracks me up. I miss his laugh, I miss his sense of humor, and I miss him.

It’t been 20 years!

As I am writing this post, I am really having a difficult time. And tears are starting to roll. But that is okay. There are different stages to grief. I know that I walked through grief 20 years ago. But now I am making the choice, to walk through it again, but in a different way, at a different stage of my life.

 

Years ago, when my Dad first died, we knew in advance that it was likely. He had a surgery planned, and the Dr. said that there was a possibility that he would die. My Dad said that he was willing to take the risk. Either he would wake up from the surgery and his life would be better, or he would wake up with Jesus. Either way, he would miss us, but he was willing to take the risk.

He did not wake up from surgery

He did not wake up from surgery, My Mom phoned to let us know. I took my kids home from work and started cleaning the house as if nothing had happened. I was in the denial stage. For about a day I really could not eat, I kept doing random tasks, and didn’t allow myself to think about it.

I honestly don’t remember going through Anger or Bargaining. I have in other losses, but my Dad had lived with physical illness for over 30 years. He had been through a lot, and I felt good that he was now out of pain. I remember cooking and baking for his memorial service. And I had been holding it together most of the week, and then a small occurrence made me fall into tears. I was making a bunch of bundt cakes. Seriously a bunch of bundt cakes. I am not sure why I thought we would need so many. But, when I had finished mixing the first cake, and poured it into the pan, I broke down. Somewhere between putting the cake in the oven, and putting the bowl in the sink I realized, my Dad was not there to lick the bowl.

Letting Go Again, Dealing with Death and Loss

Letting Go Again

 

And then I cried…

If you have been reading my blog for long, you know I enjoy dough and batter more than I enjoy baked goods. My Dad loved cake batter. Every time I made a cake, he would lick the beaters, or get a spoon and eat the batter from the bowl. This time, my Dad was not there. And he would never be there to lick the bowl again. I spent a good amount of time on my bed crying that afternoon. And then I was okay. I moved forward, did what needed to be done, supported my Mom as she walked through grief, until I cleaned out my closet this week.

So what did I decide to do? First, I let myself have a good cry. I told my family. Some looked at me as if I were a bit crazy, others, could see why it was hard to let go of another piece of my Dad, regardless of how silly. And then we sat and reminisced a lot. We talked about the things we loved about my Dad. Took some time to remember. To laugh, to cry, to remember. And then I let it go. It’s not there anymore. It never will be again, but my Dad will always be. He will always be in the ever changing inquisitive mind of my Sister Mary. He will forever be in the language skills and quiet voice of my Brother Paul. And he will forever be in my even toned decision making and drive to take care of my family. And of course, he will be alive in some sense in our children and children’s children. So, although I am letting go and saying goodbye again, I am reminded it is not a finite goodbye.

Ann Landers Quote

Ann Landers Quote

And now to say goodbye again

Now that I have said goodbye again, let go of the random artifact of my Dad’s life, I am able to start decluttering again. I don’t think that before this occurrence I had ever realized how one rather silly thing, can stop you from reaching your goals. In this case, I was thrown off the course to declutter and have my home be a more organized space, because I struggled with getting rid of something that mattered, and at the same time did not matter. Why do I share this story? First, because I wanted it as a reminder to myself to let go of things that don’t matter, and keep things that do. Example? The memories of my Dad really matter and should be shared, talked about, and held. A random bottle of Scotch does not matter and should be discarded to make room for other memories.

So, have you ever had to say goodbye again? Or goodbye for the first time? As I mentioned, it was the batter bowl, and the old Bottle of unused Scotch that brought me to tears. What made you realize you were saying goodbye? Share in the comments below.

If you would like to read more about my Dad, you can read about him here.

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  • Nicole Kauffman
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    April 24, 2019 at 5:18 AM

    I can completely relate. I feel like grief is a never-ending letting go process. And I try to avoid it, but it just makes it worse. Just have to keep allowing yourself to grieve and let go – no matter how long it’s been. Thanks for this post, very powerful reminders for me.

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      April 24, 2019 at 12:28 PM

      I very much agree with you. It is process that we must keep working on over time.

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  • Kelsey
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    April 24, 2019 at 3:30 PM

    C.S. Lewis has a quote about grief I find so powerful- “Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape.” No matter how long it’s been, grief is still present and changing and something we must acknowledge and cry it out every now and then. Thank you for your vulnerability.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:38 PM

      What a beautiful quote. Thank You for sharing.

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  • karen
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    April 24, 2019 at 3:44 PM

    I feel like grief comes in waves. you have the initial big one at first and then as time goes on you get hit by waves periodically. i cant imagine the pain ever going completely away

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      April 25, 2019 at 2:39 PM

      I very much agree with you. It comes in waves.

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  • Jacklynn Watson
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    April 25, 2019 at 8:29 AM

    I have found that indeed grief comes in waves and stages. My father passed away 50 years ago and still I grieve. What a heartfelt article.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:40 PM

      Yes, it seems to be always there, sometimes more than less. Thank You for reading.

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  • Kyndall Bennett
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    April 25, 2019 at 8:35 AM

    I once heard a story that could best be summarized as grief being like a storm that eventually allows new life to come forth. The weather may seem sad and depressing, but the water (or tears) are needed. When the sun shines again, it’ll bring more joy than it would have done had the sun been shining the whole time through.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:41 PM

      What a beautiful story. And yes, so very true.

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  • Katie Wolfe
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    April 25, 2019 at 8:36 AM

    I am going to pin this post to re-read when my daddy, who has advanced stage Alzheimer’s, is gone. I know that I am in total denial about the grieving process that is ahead of me but appreciate your insight. Blessings!

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:43 PM

      I am sorry for your upcoming loss. You are probably already grieving more than you know. But thankfully, I always think that God puts a covering like insulation over us during a time like you are walking through. We can only take so much at a time. Blessings to you too.

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  • Lisa Manderino
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    April 25, 2019 at 9:34 AM

    It’s hard! I have a believe that we will see our loved ones again and that makes it a little easier.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:44 PM

      Yes, I totally agree!

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  • Cindy Gordon
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    April 25, 2019 at 9:59 AM

    We all have our own ways of dealing with it. I know that death is just a means of transportation.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:44 PM

      Yes, we all face it in different ways at different times.

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  • Laura
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    April 25, 2019 at 11:38 AM

    My father-in-law died very suddenly. My husband and brother-in-law found him, dead, in his home. It was so hard. We don’t even know what he died from, because in our state, an autopsy isn’t done if there’s no evidence of a crime. We would have had to pay for an autopsy ourselves to find out. To this day, it haunts me to not know. Letting go is difficult. He died 8 years ago, and I still miss him terribly.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:45 PM

      That would be so very difficult to not know why he died, and so suddenly. I am sorry for you loss and the questions that still linger.

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  • Heather
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    April 25, 2019 at 11:39 AM

    What a heart filled post. Thank you for taking the time to share it with us. I lost my mom 5 years ago and it is a struggle. I don’t think it is something I will ever get over. I got used to the new norm.

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      April 25, 2019 at 2:47 PM

      I am sorry for your loss, I too believe that the grief is always there in some form. It was a hard post to share, but I am glad I did as so many people have shared similar experiences and thoughts.

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  • Joanne
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    April 25, 2019 at 12:24 PM

    Dealing with loss and grief is absolutely different for everyone…and never easy!

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      April 25, 2019 at 2:47 PM

      Agreed!

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  • Charlene
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    April 25, 2019 at 2:21 PM

    I have heard that grief comes in waves. It is definitely tough to deal with.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:47 PM

      Yes, I agree!

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  • Yolanda
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    April 25, 2019 at 2:28 PM

    Grief is hard, and everyone processes it differently. I hope every day becomes more comfortable for you.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      April 25, 2019 at 2:48 PM

      Thank You for your kind words.

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  • susie liberatore
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    April 25, 2019 at 2:41 PM

    I am so sorry to hear about all of this. I am glad you were able to share this powerful story, thank you.

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  • Tracy
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    April 25, 2019 at 3:48 PM

    What a great read. Grief is tough and I have been down the road so many times with so many family members. Good luck to you!

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  • Angelina
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    April 25, 2019 at 4:19 PM

    This is such a beautiful article, and I completely relate. I lost both my grandmothers within a month of each other over 20 years ago now and there are still moments sometimes that take my breath away when I stumble of something of theirs that I’ve held onto. My mom passed 8 years ago and it happens even more often with her! I think a lot about our emotional connection to items and am working hard to let go and declutter but it is really helpful to read about others going through the same process.

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  • Meredith
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    April 25, 2019 at 5:21 PM

    Thank you for sharing this. We are in the early stages of grieving a close family member, and it’s so difficult. I really appreciate reading how much you love your father.

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  • Leigh Ann
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    April 25, 2019 at 6:22 PM

    This is really insightful to realize you have to let go again and that grief is unique and doesn’t happen all at once. So sorry you lost your dad to a medical procedure 20 years ago.

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  • Nikki
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    April 25, 2019 at 6:26 PM

    Jenny – what a beautiful story. My dad has had an illness for the last 15 years and like your dad his impending death will not be shocking and I always wonder how I will react. That may sound weird, but when expecting it I guess the shock part of it is gone. You will always have objects, smells, sights that will remind you of your dad – smile and remember when it happens

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  • Eco Friendly Mama
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    April 25, 2019 at 7:30 PM

    I recently wrote a post on my blog about my father-in-law’s passing and can completely relate to your actions immediately following your father’s. I think as a mother you kind of have to put your own grief aside to keep it together for your kids and family. Especially if your kids are too young to fully grasp the loss. So perhaps it’s denial plus that motherly instinct of putting your loved ones needs before your own. I’m so sorry your dad was in pain for so long and that he went the way he did. Thank you for sharing this story. Though you may have finally let go of the physical Scotch bottle, the story of what it meant to you will live forever in this blog post 💙

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  • Malia
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    April 25, 2019 at 7:37 PM

    Your dad sounds like he was awesome! I love that he wore a dinosaur tie and pretended to be ready for work with only half his face shaved! Those memories are so special, and yes, letting go again is so hard every time.

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  • Robin
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    April 25, 2019 at 7:40 PM

    You’re so courageous to share this, thank you! I really identify with this as I lost my mom suddenly several years ago and still find little things like this that will bring me to tears. Hugs!

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  • Rita singh
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    April 26, 2019 at 12:26 AM

    Grief……an abyss so so deep…..where we sometimes stay numb n at other times uncontrollably weep………..just tell yourself n remind yourself that SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW we shall again meet………….healing love…..light….(((hugs))) to all who have lost a loved one or loved ones……..

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  • Barbara
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    April 26, 2019 at 4:27 AM

    It is so hard to go through a get rid of things from loved ones. I am in the process of downsizing the amount of stuff we have. I struggle when I come upon something that belonged to a loved one who is no longer with us or was a gift from them. I feel like I am giving my memories away.

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  • Suzan Ferreira
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    April 26, 2019 at 5:41 AM

    Grief has a way of rearing its head at the most unexpected times. Often I wonder, “where did that come from” when certain memories rise. It is always a work in progress for me, and couldn’t agree more that the deceased will ALWAYS remain with us. Thank you for sharing!

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  • Kim Seghers
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    April 26, 2019 at 7:05 AM

    I’m very sorry about the loss of your father. I understand how letting go of the bottle of scotch felt like you were saying goodbye to him again. Grief has a way of coming back and sneaking up on us at times when we would never expect it.

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  • Katie
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    April 26, 2019 at 7:25 AM

    Oh such emotions. It’s only been 3 years since my dad passed unexpectedly, but it seems to be those unexpected little things that get me! I wrote a whole blog post on my blog about why I named it what I did, and it’s all because of my daddy’s passing. I have no idea how I will be in 20 years time, but I hope I’m as adjusted as you!

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  • Theresa
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    April 26, 2019 at 7:30 AM

    oh boy did this speak to me! My dad passed away 07-11-2018 on my son 28 birthday. April 27 will be his 71 birthday. I can feel your pain and sending you hugs my dear!

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  • Hina Siddiqui
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    April 26, 2019 at 7:42 AM

    A mere thought of losing our parents is too tough to digest. We may find the courage to let go of things associated with them, but can never let go of the memories. We can never say Good bye to the memories we love to cherish forever. This post made me really emotional.

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  • Stacey
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    April 26, 2019 at 8:04 AM

    This is such a beautiful post. Thank you for writing about letting go of your dad. I know it’s not easy. Sharing this story will help others who are grieving.

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  • Sharon
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    April 26, 2019 at 12:28 PM

    Such a beautiful, heartfelt post. I can relate to a lot of what you said, on a shorter scale. My dad passed away 4 years ago. It’s strange the things that still get me.

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  • Carolina
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    April 26, 2019 at 1:46 PM

    I know this was hard for you to write so I appreciate your heartfelt post and I am sure it will help people that are going to a circumstance similar to yours. “Letting go again” love it, thanks for sharing.

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  • Lisa
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    April 26, 2019 at 2:17 PM

    Couldn’t agree more. We have to continually let go. It could be years when thoughts come up again and we go through the grieving process again…. and again we need to let go.

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  • Karla
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    April 26, 2019 at 5:50 PM

    This was beautifully written. Thank you!!!

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  • Lina
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    April 26, 2019 at 7:34 PM

    Beautiful and heartfelt! Thank you for sharing.

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  • Kim
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    April 26, 2019 at 10:58 PM

    It is so hard to let go. I know exactly what you are dealing with except I am surrounded by family members who don’t understand. They are able to move on eaiser than I can. But death is a hard thing and we all deal with it differently. I think it’s actually ok to hold on for a little bit as long as it doesn’t interfere in our day to day.

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  • Amber Neil
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    April 28, 2019 at 10:28 AM

    There is something therapeutic about writing it down. I have some things I need to let go, and this article is helpful and so beautiful. ❤❤

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      May 3, 2019 at 3:45 PM

      I am so glad that it was helpful. I too agree that writing it down makes such a healthy difference.

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  • blair villanueva
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    April 28, 2019 at 9:48 PM

    My father passed away 5-years ago and yup I miss him terribly. How do I cope?
    I made a promise of visiting all cities and places he mentioned in our bedtime stories. That way, it feels like he is with me.

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      May 3, 2019 at 3:45 PM

      That is such a wonderful way to remember your Father and to take him everywhere with you!

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  • Danielle Rice
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    April 29, 2019 at 5:15 PM

    I agree. Grief does come in ways. The initial shock is more overwhelming, but it’s the pain of never seeing that person again that never goes away. My mom has been gone over two decades, and it still hurts.

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      May 3, 2019 at 3:44 PM

      Yes, I so very much agree with you. It is so difficult, and although time changes the grief, it never truly is gone.

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  • jen
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    April 29, 2019 at 8:05 PM

    I think grief comes in weird and unexpected waves. It can hit you years later in an obscure moment.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      May 3, 2019 at 3:43 PM

      Yes, that is so very true!

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  • Cindy
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    May 1, 2019 at 4:30 PM

    I understand completely. My dad’s been gone nine years. Sometimes the loss feels so fresh and raw. Little things can trigger those feelings. Those are the moments when I allow myself to grieve again and practice deep self care.

    I don’t know if the day will ever come when I don’t miss my dad. But I have more days filled with happy memories, thinking about him, than sad days. And that’s a good sign.

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      May 3, 2019 at 3:42 PM

      Yes, the happy memories are to be cherished. And I agree, it is good to feel the feelings, and then to deeply care for ourselves.

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  • Pauline
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    May 2, 2019 at 2:15 PM

    We recently had a very close friend pass away unexpectedly in December from an undiagnosed heart condition. I’ve dealt with loss before, but noone else in our familial group has. I watch my husband and our friends struggle with it. I even catch myself about to call him to make sure he’s coming to family dinner or to see if he wants to go fishing. Grief is definitely a process.

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      May 3, 2019 at 3:41 PM

      I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult, and takes a long time to go through the different stages. I always think though that for a loss to be truly great as in the loss you shared above, the grief is proof of the great relationship that is being mourned.

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  • T.M. Brown
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    May 3, 2019 at 6:31 PM

    I will have lost my father twenty years ago this coming July and know that pain all too well. I was four months pregnant with his very first grandchild, too, and we were in the middle of a move from one state to another. In fact, I’ll be balling my eyes out in about 11 or 12 days when I attend a concert and hear the one and only song my father and I ever danced to in his 46 years old life. Hugs to you, my friend. It’s not easy, but at least the memories are precious and special.

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  • Amanda
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    May 3, 2019 at 9:56 PM

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I know it’s been 20 years but I am sure one never gets over losing someone so close.

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  • Nicki
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    May 8, 2019 at 8:54 AM

    Aww. This is so sad! I think most of us have can relate though. It’s TOUGH!! Sending hugs!

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  • Susan
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    May 10, 2019 at 3:32 AM

    Thank you so much for this beautiful post and what a lovely tribute to your father. Grief is such a crazy thing isn’t it? I miss my Mom so desperately that sometimes When I feel myself start to think about her I will either tell myself in my mind she’s still here or pretend like she never was. She’s only been gone 3 1/2 years but she lived her last 10 years completely paralyzed from a car wreck and for 7 of those 10 I was her caregiver and it bonded us in ways I could never have imagined. Sometimes the pain is just so deep our minds either avoid it or sometimes I go there but I set a timer on my crying which may sound weird but for me it would swallow me whole if I didn’t. I’m so sorry about your Dad but no doubt he would be crazy proud of you for this beautiful tribute of an article. Thank you for sharing your heart.

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