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Ruth- My Mentor, My Friend

Ruth- My Mentor, My Friend

August 1, 2018 Posted by 7thyearproductions@gmail.com Uncategorized 62 Comments

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Recently I had the privilege of helping a friend out. But, as I type that sentence, I know that” friend” is far too common a word. Truly, I am talking about helping out a dear mentor, who changed my life in so many positive ways, and made me want to be better than I was, strive for more, and look for the possibilities. Truly, Ruth was my first mentor.

Without Ruth, I would not exist!

I met Ruth at birth, or rather soon after. Years before, Ruth and my Mother were young teachers just starting out. As the story goes, one day Ruth was driving down the freeway, and thought, “Linda, Ira”. She set my parents up on a blind date, and 6 months later they were married. A few years later, my brother was born, and then, after a few more years, I came along.

 

Ruth- My Mentor, My Friend

Ruth and My Mom at my Granddaughter’s First Birthday Party.

My first memories of Ruth are at the Lab pool. It was a huge Olympic sized pool. I remember sitting on the steps in the shallow end and talking to Ruth about bathing suits. In my mind, she had a blue and red swimsuit with a white skirt. It always made me think of Wonder Woman. She told me years later that she never owned a bathing suit that looked like Wonder Woman, but that is what happens in a child’s mind.

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Sometimes after Ruth went on long trips back East, she would invite me over to help her unpack. She had a huge bright pink, hardside suitcase. I had never seen anything like it. She would tell me about her trip, the travel, and show me various items she had brought back. I remember being amazed at what an organized traveler Ruth was. She had travel shampoos, and jewelry cases, really everything you would need for a long trip.

 Visiting Ruth’s house was always a treat!

I loved going to Ruth’s home as there was always a sense of calm peace to me. Her home was always well- organized and clean. I was always impressed by many things in Ruth’s home, but I think my favorite was the canister of Brach’s candy in the pantry cupboard. I always thought it was so funny to have a large canister of candy. Every now and then, Ruth would bring out the canister, and offer everyone some candy. I thought this was amazing but probably was just normal hospitality.

 

Ruth- My Mentor, My Friend

Ruth- My Mentor, My Friend

Ruth was the Mother to two sons, and no daughters. My brother and I would often play with her boys, but sometimes I would just hang out with Ruth. We would talk about life, I would brush her long hair with a big blue comb, and we would sometimes make cards or do art together. As a kid, I thought it was so much fun. I felt very important.

 My First Job

When I was twelve, Ruth gave me my first job. She was a Special Education Teacher in a  nearby town. So, a couple times a year, Ruth would pick me up, drive to the next town, and I would get to work for a Saturday. Ruth would give me a pile of papers that needed duplicates to use with the students. I would go to the paper closet at the school and set up shop. First, I would make the Ditto copy, and then I would roll the paper through the mimeograph machine. Rolling, and rolling.

To this day, I love the smell of copies because I remember the important work I would do making the copies. As I worked, I would think about Ruth using the copies to teach the students special skills like reading, writing, and math. It was all very exciting to a twelve year- old.

 We would take a lunch break….

Then, we would take a lunch break and Ruth would take me to McDonald’s. We would eat inside which was something that my family never did. And, we would order Big Mac’s. Truthfully, I had never had a Big Mac. I thought it was a very grown-up thing to do. We would sit at one of the booths talking about life, teaching, working, and school. I loved those lunches more than I can express in a blog post. At the time, the lunches made me feel like I could conquer the world.

The Big Mac!

The Big Mac!

We would then go back to the school, and I would go back and make more copies. After all of the copies were finished, I would go into Ruth’s classroom where she would have been working on various projects. Ruth would give me a collection of items, and I would go to work dressing her bulletin boards. Again, this seemed like very important work. Occasionally Ruth would guide me if I went too far astray with my designs, but often she would just stand back and congratulate me on a job well done.


After the day was finished, we would head to the car and drive home. We would chat about everything in the world during the half-hour drive, and Ruth would tell me she would need me again in a few months. Being twelve and hearing that a teacher needs you to help them is amazing. I felt very valued. When we would arrive home, Ruth would hand me a check. I remember the first time I thought I must have moved up seriously in the world if people were now giving me checks!

 A New Job…

A few years later Ruth asked if I would help in her summer school special day class. I was elated!!! Ruth would pick me up each day during summer school, and take me to the Bagel Bin that was close to our home. We would each pick out a bagel for breakfast, and one to eat on the ride home.

 

My Mom and Ruth

My Mom and Ruth at my Brother’s 40’th Birthday Celebration.

Once we arrived at the school, I would get started at my tasks, arranging papers or books for the day, and preparing for the songs. Ruth would often let me lead the learning songs that we would sing with the class in the morning. She told me that I did a great job with the singing and keeping the kids focused.


Later in the day I would sit one on one with students and help as they worked through their reading books. Since this was a special day class, most of the students had a great deal of difficulty with reading. This work was fairly challenging. I used tips and tricks that Ruth and her aide Mrs. O, shared to help the children have as much success as possible each day.

 I was allowed to manage the Reward System!

I also was allowed to help with the reward system. Ruth had little cards that the kids would put stickers on when they accomplished various tasks. On Friday’s they could shop in the class “store” for various prizes. I loved this work!!!! It was all quite formal, and I felt very special to be given the responsibility of managing this process. Sometimes, Ruth would take me to a store called Boswells to help select items for the class store. I truly loved this!

Helping in the classroom went on a for a few summers, and I enjoyed it so very much. I learned so much from Ruth about having a strong work ethic, working well with others, and completing tasks in order to keep the classroom organized. It would be great if, at this moment in the story, I said that I became a teacher and owe it all to Ruth. But that is not the story.

 So, you might think I became a teacher…

I never became a teacher, but my life was changed by working with Ruth. For instance, when I went to get my first few jobs, I had a reference to use. And, since Ruth had not only taught me so many things, but gave me positive feedback for my successes, I felt confident that she would give me a solid reference, and that my work ethic would prove to be good for future employers. This was invaluable to me in two ways.

Ruth, My Mentor, My Friend

Ruth, My Mentor, My Friend


First, I felt very confident that I could do a job because I had successfully completed the jobs that Ruth gave me and she had communicated this clearly to me. Second, and rather more important, I learned how to mentor others. As my life progressed and was involved with various youth groups, jobs, and companies, I saw value in mentoring others, because I knew the positive effect, Ruth’s influence in my life had made.

 Flash forward 30 years

As I mentioned, I recently helped Ruth move out of her home. I helped clear the remaining items from her home and memories flooded through my mind. So many laughs, so many good memories, and so much learning. When the day was over, and I drove out of the driveway, I must admit, I burst into tears. My daughter asked why I was crying as we had had a very successful day. I was crying for so many reasons.

First, I was driving away for the last time from a home that was such an important part of my childhood. From playing with the boys to visiting with Ruth to the ever-present Candy Canister. When we drove away from the house, we drove away from any future memories there. I was also crying because change is hard. But, mostly, I was crying because I was so thankful that Ruth took the time to be a part of my life. To guide me, to share stories, and to make an impact.

 

Kids in a Classroom

Kids in a Classroom

As the tears began to subside, stories swam through my mind. Memories that had long been put away surfaced, and I took a long and very happy walk down memory lane. Movies that Ruth and I had watched together, concerts that my brother and I went to with Ruth, and all of the life tips that I had gleaned from Ruth over a lifetime of knowing her.

 Time moves on, but the impact lasts forever.

Once I visited many of the memories in my mind, I started to think about the people I have mentored, and who I have yet to mentor. Mentoring can be a formalized program that mentors and proteges sign up for, but more often than not, mentoring is a regular person, taking the time, to change the life of another person for the positive. I don’t think mentors always set out to mentor someone as it often organically occurs. But, I believe it would happen more often, if we looked for opportunities, to take an ordinary acquaintance or interaction, and turn it into a life-changing relationship.

I am thankful that I had the opportunity to help Ruth in a small way because of her many years of helping and growing me, as well as being my dear friend. Look around, see who is in your life, and how you can make their life more than it is now. To read more about some of the people who have impacted my life, check out my posts on my Mom and Dad.

Who are your greatest mentors? And do you currently work to mentor others? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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  • Blyss
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    August 1, 2018 at 10:36 AM

    Aww I love this story, it actually makes me cry thinking of those mentors in my life who gave up time to teach me invaluable skills for work and life and home. I loved your beautiful message and thank you so much for sharing Mrs. Ruth’s teachings! <3 BlyssYourHeart.com

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:16 AM

      Thank You! It was truly a joy to write, and it brought up memories for me too of so many wonderful people who have blessed my life.

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  • Jenni LeBaron
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    August 1, 2018 at 11:11 AM

    Those are some really beautiful memories with Ruth! I have several people in my life who made an impact that way and I am thankful for them!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:16 AM

      I am so glad! Yes, they make a huge impact.

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  • Marysa
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    August 1, 2018 at 12:42 PM

    That’s great that you had such a wonderful role model and mentor as a child and throughout your life. Those are the kinds of relationships that are hard to come by.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:17 AM

      Exactly, but so worth every moment when you find one.

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  • Sarah
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    August 1, 2018 at 2:27 PM

    This was so lovely. I can think of a few mentors in my life. One, in particular, named Barb. She was a true pillar of faith and I remember how I always learned so much from her. Even now as I sit here thinking about her and can’t help but smile. <3

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:17 AM

      That is so wonderful! She probably had no idea what an impact she was making.

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  • Diane@worthbeyondrubies
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    August 1, 2018 at 5:25 PM

    What a beautiful friendship and such beautiful memories with your mentor. I can think of a few in my life that really impacted me! Its so important to have them and to be one as well!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:18 AM

      I am so glad. Yes, since we have received, we truly need to give.

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  • Jasmine Hewitt
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    August 2, 2018 at 6:56 AM

    it’s wonderful that the two of you have had such a strong relationship!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:18 AM

      Yes, I am so thankful!

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  • Theresa Bailey
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    August 2, 2018 at 7:09 AM

    Having a mentor is great. I have a college counselor that I still keep up with on facebook. She is always the first person I call to give me a reference for any jobs. She’s happy to do it even 15 years later.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:18 AM

      That is so wonderful! Those relationships make such a huge difference in our lives.

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  • Cristy Harfmann
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    August 2, 2018 at 8:44 AM

    Wow what an amazing relationship! You are so lucky.

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  • Samantha
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    August 2, 2018 at 9:24 AM

    Ruth sounds like an amazing woman. Its awesome how many memories she’s provided you in your years of friendship.

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  • Pam
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    August 2, 2018 at 10:05 AM

    What a beautiful story. How wonderful that she took the time to “see” you when you were young.

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  • Nikki
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    August 2, 2018 at 10:28 AM

    Beautiful Story! Glad you had someone like her in your life and I’m sure she was just as grateful to have you in her life

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  • Rachel Newlon
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    August 2, 2018 at 12:42 PM

    Absolutely beautiful!!!

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  • Taylor Reese
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    August 2, 2018 at 1:07 PM

    I love those special mentor relationships. It’s so important to remember it doesn’t have to come from a formal program. You can mentor or be mentored by anyone willing to invest their time.

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  • Laura Geftman
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    August 2, 2018 at 2:50 PM

    So sweet! Mentor ship is so important! SO nice to hear that Ruth was a great one!

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  • Jeanne
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    August 2, 2018 at 3:13 PM

    You were very lucky to have Ruth in your life! Teachers seem to be natural mentors in our lives. I have had a couple of teachers that helped me at different times in my life.com

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:19 AM

      Yes I am truly blessed. And it is true that Teachers are often natural mentors. I am very thankful.

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  • Sami Summers
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    August 2, 2018 at 4:16 PM

    This is a beautiful story, I too have wonderful memories of my parents’ friends that sort of took me under their wing and helped along the way. It is beautiful that you had a wonderful woman to look up during your formative years.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:20 AM

      Yes, I am so thankful. I am glad you had the same experience as well.

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  • Dawn -Our Food Fix
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    August 2, 2018 at 4:20 PM

    Such a sweet story! I’m so glad you were able to have this close personal connection.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:20 AM

      🙂

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  • Jocelyn
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    August 2, 2018 at 4:21 PM

    Beautiful story!

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  • gail
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    August 2, 2018 at 4:50 PM

    Awwww, so awesome that you had such a long lasting relationship with Ruth! Lovely!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:21 AM

      Yes, she is definitely a lifelong friend.

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  • Catherine McGuinness
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    August 2, 2018 at 7:17 PM

    I do wonder what that wonder woman swim suit really looked like… 🙂

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:21 AM

      Yes, in my mind it was really cool! LOL

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  • Clarissa
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    August 2, 2018 at 8:10 PM

    Such sweet memories. I hope everyone has a Ruth in their life, I know I do. Thanks for such an inspiring post.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:22 AM

      Yes, I hope so too! I am glad you have had the same experience.

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  • Tricia Snow
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    August 2, 2018 at 9:54 PM

    What a heartwarming story! Givers gain every time!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:22 AM

      Yes, truly!

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  • Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat.
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    August 3, 2018 at 4:42 AM

    What a sweet story! How blessed you are to have a beloved friend and mentor like Ruth.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:22 AM

      Yes, I am so blessed!

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  • Naomi
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    August 3, 2018 at 5:26 AM

    Wow amazing, what a blessing to have someone like Ruth in your life.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:22 AM

      Completely! I am so thankful!

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  • Caroline
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    August 3, 2018 at 7:21 AM

    What a special relationship you have! Truly something to be cherished!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:23 AM

      Yes, exactly! And we always have had very good laughs together too!

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  • E. Smith
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    August 3, 2018 at 8:05 AM

    Really lovely memories shared with your friend and mentor. It’s amazing the impact someone can have in our lives! I have had a few mentors over the years that I’ve been inspired by.

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:24 AM

      I am so glad you to have had wonderful mentors. They are such cherished memories.

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  • Raina
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    August 3, 2018 at 8:38 AM

    What sweet memories and a beautiful relationship you have!

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      August 3, 2018 at 9:24 AM

      🙂

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  • Ina @ Crafty For Home
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    August 3, 2018 at 10:10 AM

    You are lucky to have such an awesome mentor and give you a big impact on your life!

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  • Katie
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    August 3, 2018 at 11:31 AM

    What a beautiful story about such an impactful person in your life! It’s amazing how important positive adults are in our youth!

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  • Melissa Hollinger
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    August 3, 2018 at 12:52 PM

    What a beautiful story! I love hearing stories like this, and I agree that it is super important for young people to have mentors to look up to that are not necessarily their parents. It made me cry when you talked about when you had to pack up her house.

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  • Christa
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    August 3, 2018 at 5:11 PM

    You are so blessed to not only have such a great mentor during your childhood, but also to be able to continue that relationship as an adult. This is such a beautiful tribute to her!

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  • Ashley - GrowingSpangs
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    August 3, 2018 at 6:31 PM

    Your story is so sweet, and it reminds me of a couple of ladies in my own life. I’ve always gotten along best with older generations – maybe it’s the gardening and beautiful teacup obsessions, haha. Anyway, thanks for your cute personal story, it reminded me to keep finding women to look up to, and as I get older, find other women to share life with. <3

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  • Stephanie
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    August 3, 2018 at 9:23 PM

    This is a beautiful story! Ruth sounds like a one of a kind lady!

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  • Lorna @ Gin & Lemonade
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    August 4, 2018 at 5:24 AM

    I had many Ruths, and I still have some. I’m glad you have yours. I love your writing. Please don’t stop.

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  • Veronika
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    August 4, 2018 at 7:41 AM

    What a beautiful tribute to a true friend. Thank you for sharing this. <3 it made me reflect on the great mentors and inspiring people in my life.

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  • Stacey
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    August 4, 2018 at 9:07 AM

    Such a great story! This is a great reminder how we may not know just how much we impact someone else’s life. Thanks for that reminder!

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  • T.M. Brown
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    August 4, 2018 at 11:42 AM

    What a precious story!!! Having a mentor is something not a lot of people have the opportunity to boast, so this is truly something to cherish. So glad she had such a tremendous impact on your life!

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  • Hannah Kliza
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    August 4, 2018 at 12:59 PM

    My greatest mentor is probably my mother, she create such a great learning environment for me along the different stages of my life and some of those very lessons I share with my children. A good mentor is priceless.

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  • Heidi
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    August 4, 2018 at 3:41 PM

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful story!

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  • Tina
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    August 4, 2018 at 4:14 PM

    Such a lovely story – you are so blessed to have her in your life, and she you!

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  • Monica
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    August 4, 2018 at 8:41 PM

    What a great post. I love when life brings us such special people that have such an impact on us as people. There aren’t always many, but the few that come make such difference.

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  • Kat
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    August 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM

    Such a wonderful story! You are lucky to have such an amazing mentor.

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      August 7, 2018 at 4:05 PM

      I am so very blessed! Thank You!

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