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Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

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Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

March 5, 2019 Posted by 7thyearproductions@gmail.com Hospitality, Life of Giving Series, Uncategorized 38 Comments

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Have You Ever Had One Of Those Days?

Have you ever had one of those days? You know where you want to run away. Or, maybe something much less drastic, like wanting to stay in bed and scroll on Facebook. Or, just get in the car and go to the movies. A grown-up movie that would be boring to almost anyone other than yourself. I can answer yes to all those questions. In fact, I can answer yes to all those questions at least a few times a year! On those days, I don’t do any of those things. In fact, I do the opposite. Lately it has been top of mind for me, so I thought I would share my thoughts on Serving Your Family, Even when You Don’t Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

So, this week has been one of those weeks. I have been thinking about writing this post for a while, but this week really tipped me over the edge. So, in case you are feeling the same way, we can take a moment and commensurate with each other. All my children are 18 and over, with my last daughter graduating this year! I am so very excited that I will be 4 out of 4 for getting my kids through school! But, even with the success, sometimes there are challenges.

We Face Some Challenges…

My 19-year-old son is Autistic and faces some of the challenges that come along with Autism. Although he is high functioning, he does not always understand good choices, what is best for himself, and how he can get himself into trouble. So, my son made a few choices that he did not really understand and got himself into serious medical and legal trouble. I won’t share all of the details at this point, but it broke my already fragile mothers’ heart. This came during the same week where we are still finding ourselves refrigerator free, with a kitchen and living room filled with tile and half torn apart from our latest project. School and work pressures mounting, and having family visiting.

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

Normally, I can handle a lot of stress, and could probably have better handled this last week, but mostly I went back and forth between being very strong, and weeping. I don’t know if you have ever been in this type of mood, but if you have, please know I am praying for you. You need it, and I am glad to pray for you. I know that I too have people praying for me.

The Catalyst

The catalyst for this week’s turning point was when I was making dinner on Saturday. We only had 11 people which is our normal family gathering, but with all the building supplies and the week of stress with my Autistic son, I probably was not facing the day with all of the positive resolve I needed. I had made roasted chicken and was baking potatoes to cut up and fry. I thought it would be a quick and easy dinner.

A family member brought raw Asparagus and I saw it sitting on the counter. And truthfully, I didn’t want to do anything with it. I certainly didn’t want to do all the work needed to make Asparagus properly. Don’t get me wrong,  I was truly thankful for the Asparagus because most of our family loves it and we don’t have it very often. So, I sat down amid kids doing art projects, and men joking around loudly, and stared at the Asparagus.

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

I am not a very rebellious person. In fact, I am one of the least rebellious people I know, but when my frame of mind is not in its proper perspective, I have been known to be a bit rebellious. I was simply not going to make the Asparagus. End of story.

But Then My Heart Changed

Then, my Mom walked through the room. My Mom is not young, and she is less able than when she was younger. She loves Asparagus. Well, properly prepared Asparagus. I have talked about Love Languages before and you can read more in this post. My Love Language is Acts of Service so that is how I show love to those around me. I looked at my Mom again, walked over to the Asparagus and spent the next half hour snapping the stalks, paring the small triangles off the sides, and ensuring they were in really good shape. Then I soaked them and prepared a pot of boiling water. I placed some olive oil, salt, and pepper in the water, dropped the prepared Asparagus into the water and cooked them for a few minutes.

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

Everyone loved the Asparagus, and my Mom loved the care that had been put into them. And I remembered, that when I choose to serve my family, even when I don’t feel like it, even when it has been a hard day or week or month or year, I feel blessed. I feel refreshed, restored, and useful.

I have too Much on My Plate Sometimes!

As women we often have a lot on our plates. We are often tasked with cooking and cleaning, taking care of children whether they are young or grown. We typically are in charge of the laundry, and the shopping, and the mending, and calling for appointments. And it is really tiring if we don’t focus on our mission, and instead focus on our feelings.

I have found over the years, that any work that I undertake for my family typically goes better if I have the mindset that I am blessing my family. For instance, I am going to pare the Asparagus to bless my Mom. I am going to be in charge of all the appointments that an Autistic child has, dealing with all of the agencies, and issues because it is my joy to be his parent. I am going to choose to enjoy listening to the details of one of my family members challenges, because I love them and choose to serve them with joy.

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

Do I feel this way every single day, with every single task? NO. Do I remind myself often that I feel better, serve better, and bless my family more when I am choosing to bless them instead of doing things because no one else did them. YES! I love the scripture that says, “Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance”. It is found in James 1:2-4.

Now you might be thinking, “Hey lady, I can’t take any more trials!!!! I don’t want any more endurance!!! And I don’t feel any Joy!!! Trust me my friends, I get it! Prior to taking on the Asparagus, I was feeling the same way. But, when I chose to take my time to lovingly take care of each Asparagus, and to do it with joy as a blessing, my mindset changed. And every task I did for the rest of the day was made easier. I had chosen to bless my family and achieved it with the silly well pared Asparagus.

“But I Do Try!”

You might be ready to say, “I try to bless my family, but they don’t even notice”! I understand. I am there with you. Sometimes caring for a family is a thankless job. In those seasons, take notes. Don’t take notes of who did not say Thanks Mom! Take notes of what you have done to bless your family. Kind of a blessing journal. Write out in a journal what you did during the day. Not as a list to throw at those who are not thankful, but to remind yourself that you are in a season of blessing your family, you are good at it, and you are a huge blessing to those around you. And then go about blessing those you love.

Trust me, it will bless you to see how much you do each day, to bless those you love. You can also write into the journal a few amazing things about yourself, like how you are a loving Mom, wife, and friend. Write that you look amazing today because you got dressed in a cute outfit to bless your family, and how cool it is that you are living out your purpose for this season of life. Maybe sometimes even include a note to self that you are awesome at spinning plates, and juggling schedules.

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don't Want To!

Serving Your Family, Even When You Don’t Want To!

Your Family Desperately Needs You

In the difficult moments, remember that your family desperately needs you. You are the only you out there! You were made for this, and they need you! I have been working with my Autistic son on building life skills. My greatest fear is what will happen to him when I die. I asked him during one of our times working on skills what he will do when I die. His response was that he thinks he will die too. And he was not being a smart mouth. He literally cannot imagine his life without me, because he is so dependent on me, and trusts that I will help him through everything from simple phone calls, to helping him understand emotional concepts.

This of course crushed my heart as a Mom, but it also really made me think about how much our families depend on us as Moms. The reason they depend on us so much is because we are awesome at what we do. We are not perfect, but most of the time, we are a huge blessing to our families and whether they say it or not, they see and feel it.

Face it Moms, only you can serve your family and hand out blessings best. Your family was put together for a reason. You are the only you that they will ever have, and ever need. This week, sit back, take a breath, and then get to blessing.

 

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Jennifer Morrison is the writer behind the WhyGive blog. Experience: Jennifer Morrison is an experienced event planner and hostess, as well as a businesswoman, financial coach, blogger, and online reseller. On WhyGive Jennifer shares how you can create simple yet special moments of hospitality for your family and friends. While on Why Give you will find easy recipes, hospitality and entertaining ideas, family moments, and inspirational stories.

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  • Elizabeth
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    March 5, 2019 at 10:50 PM

    This is beautiful – thank you for this encouragement to keep on giving… I’m reminded of Philippians 2 – everything that Jesus gave and kept giving and giving.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      March 6, 2019 at 11:18 AM

      I so very much agree! 🙂

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  • Alexandra
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    March 6, 2019 at 4:22 AM

    I absolutely loved reading this post – your perspective on this is so relatable and so touching. Beautifully written.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      March 6, 2019 at 11:17 AM

      Thank You so much Alexandra! Yes, we have all been here at one time or another.

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  • Sara
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    March 6, 2019 at 4:52 AM

    Awww Mama, I’m sorry about your tough week. But giving back to your family and pushing through is what they need. I know we all as mama’s feel like a punching bag sometimes, but I know it is worth it at the end of the day!!!

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      March 6, 2019 at 11:16 AM

      I so very much agree! 🙂

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  • Margaret Westhoff
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    March 6, 2019 at 9:35 AM

    Your post really speaks to me. As a SAHM of two toddlers and a preteen, I often have days where I want a break from serving my family. There are days when my husband gets home from work and all I want to do is check out and let him take over. But I know that, just as you did with the asparagus, it is better to push through those emotions and continue serving and loving your family, calling on God’s strength amidst your weakness.

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      March 6, 2019 at 11:12 AM

      I think we are all in this together. It is difficult some times, and yes, only God’s strength can get us thru. Thankfully, there is blessing on the other side.

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  • Chelsea
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    March 6, 2019 at 12:12 PM

    You wrote my heart ❤️ I needed this encouragement today!

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  • Janine
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    March 7, 2019 at 1:16 PM

    Thank you for this. It’s so hard sometimes but its so important to remember that your family depends on you. And I often find that once I get over the initial “i just want to stay in bed” mental block that things start looking infinitely better as I serve.

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  • Alyssa
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    March 7, 2019 at 1:48 PM

    I love the idea of a blessings journal, a great encouraging reference for days when mothering is long and hard!

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  • Susan
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    March 7, 2019 at 6:36 PM

    I love the comment, “You are the only you out there!” That’s one of those – needed to hear that today quotes.

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  • Holly Bird
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    March 7, 2019 at 6:43 PM

    Beautifully written! But remember, you are allowed to let others do for you..that is a gift you are giving to them! We all need to to do for others! Have an autistic child is very draining, and your family is also there for you, that is what family is for! God bless you and your wonderful family!

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  • Julie
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    March 7, 2019 at 7:11 PM

    Yup – I’ve had lots of those weeks!

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  • Tricia Snow
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    March 7, 2019 at 7:48 PM

    I love this. One thing I love to do is cook for my family when I am fasting. To me, it is a part of the joy in fasting. To continue to serve them food joyfully during my fast. Funny thing is I notice the hunger is not bad when I am doing this. Also when I think about what I am grateful for in them it is easy to serve!

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  • Leigh Ann
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    March 7, 2019 at 8:16 PM

    Well written and important message. Thank you for sharing!

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  • Liza Brackbill
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    March 8, 2019 at 5:07 AM

    This is awesome. Way to be such a good mom and daughter 🙂

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  • jen
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    March 8, 2019 at 1:50 PM

    All I can think to post here is a smile and a hug 🙂 lovely.

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  • Anna
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    March 8, 2019 at 4:28 PM

    I love your blog. It is very inspiring! I always considered myself a giver, maybe sometimes even more than I should. But it is so rewarding. Nothing can beat that feeling inside. So I admire what you do by inspiring other people to give more. <3

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  • Jenny
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    March 8, 2019 at 8:17 PM

    Wow. What a great take on this. I’ve never looked at what I do in my family as blessing them. I’ve always looked at life for being grateful for what we receive. Of course that is important, and it changes my outlook, but it doesn’t motivate me to do better. I’m going to try thinking of the things I do as blessing my family and see if I can’t do a bit better.

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  • Cindy
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    March 9, 2019 at 12:17 AM

    This is a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing honestly and also sharing how you you found strength to continue to offer. That asparagus must have been amazing, after your careful preparations!

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  • Ramae Hamrin
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    March 9, 2019 at 5:42 PM

    What Holly Bird said. When I broke my hip and was diagnosed with cancer, it .was really hard for me to accept help. One of the best things I was told is that we give others a gift when we allow them to serve us. We serve others by allowing them to serve us. We really are all one. Beautiful post.

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  • Kirsten
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    March 10, 2019 at 2:56 PM

    Great post! Sometimes we just want to phone it in-but that’s when your family needs it the most!!!

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  • candy
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    March 11, 2019 at 11:22 AM

    What a wonderful reminder to we do carry to much on our plates at times. Maybe ask for some help in the kitchen next time. Good feeling when we can help and make others happy.

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  • Danielle Wolter
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    March 11, 2019 at 11:30 AM

    Sometimes it is hard to keep going, and I admit I have many times when I just say I’m not doing it. However, my family consists of me and my boyfriend, so it’s much easier. but we forget how good it makes us feel when we can give, even when we don’t want to.

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  • Shannah
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    March 11, 2019 at 4:55 PM

    Bless your heart! You are a wonderful caregiver! I know it can get tough (I have 8 kids myself and currently taking care of my mom). But you are completely right it all comes down to your mindset! Thanks for sharing!

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  • Winnie
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    March 11, 2019 at 8:17 PM

    This are such great ways. I am glad you shared this for everyone to see.

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  • Tinashe Jaricha
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    March 12, 2019 at 12:01 AM

    Very helpful post. It’s so true that when you change your mindset- focusing on the mission and blessing you are to your family it makes a difference to how you serve. Thank you for sharing this, it’s very encouraging!

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  • Tiff
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    March 12, 2019 at 3:01 AM

    So that’s why you chose a picture of asparagus for the pin! I was trying to figure out what it had to do with serving, and now the mystery is solved! Often times it just takes something simple like that to redirect our heart and remind us that we need to serve like Jesus did. I struggle sometimes with my boys, having to do every little thing for them every single day, since they are both delayed and can’t do much by themselves. I love them to pieces, but I have my moments where it feels overwhelming, and I have to remind myself that I am here to serve them and teach them to serve by my example.

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  • Kim
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    March 13, 2019 at 7:38 AM

    I love the message but feel like sometimes it is ok to take a break and let your family serve themselves. I had a breakdown- anxiety and panic attacks- from trying to do it all. I definitely couldn’t serve my family when I was depressed and anxiety ridden. I finally learned that my family knows I love them regardless of whether or not I do everything for them. It’s ts a matter of prioritizing. But I do understand your message and agree with it!!

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  • Ayanna
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    March 13, 2019 at 9:44 AM

    I have definitely had many of those times. Yet like you, when I do serve others, especially my family, I am so blessed.

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  • Susan Franklin
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    March 13, 2019 at 12:17 PM

    Beautiful post – it so speaks to all of our hearts. You’ve shown us the true spirit of Christ. The one scripture that I like to reflect is Phil 2:3-4 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. I do agree our hearts are lifted when we serve others and put them above ourselves. Be blessed!

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  • julie
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    March 14, 2019 at 3:31 AM

    OH goodness I could relate to this so much! Thank you so much for exactly what I needed to read today!

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  • Bailey
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    March 14, 2019 at 5:51 AM

    Thank you for being so honest and transparent. Serving our families can be a struggle but we have to trust that these trials will work in our hearts to develop us into the person God is forming us to be.

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  • T.M. Brown
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    March 14, 2019 at 2:36 PM

    I’m one of those with too much on her plate….even though I work from home! I have to work hard at slowing down, paying attention and finding opportunities to serve. I love it when I do, though ~ always brings a smile to my face AND my heart. So worth it.

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  • Kristi
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    March 14, 2019 at 4:04 PM

    Thank you for the encouragement! I definitely need it as I get burnt out!! Someone once told me that instead of grumbling when doing the dishes pray over each person as you wash their plate. Your mindset can really make all of the difference!

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  • Pauline Reynolds
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    March 15, 2019 at 9:31 AM

    I work hard to serve my family as often as I can. It’s those little things that matter.

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  • Nicki
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    March 15, 2019 at 5:19 PM

    This is very well written and something that I very much needed to hear right now. Thank you.

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