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Why Families Needs the 5 Love Languages

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Why Families Needs the 5 Love Languages

Why Families Needs the 5 Love Languages

February 5, 2019 Posted by 7thyearproductions@gmail.com Book Reviews, Valentine's Day 59 Comments

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Why Your Family Needs the 5 Love Languages

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I first read the book, ‘The 5 Love Languages” about 25 years ago. I was single at the time and thought it would not be helpful because I didn’t have a sweetheart. At that time, I owned a bookstore, and the book was gaining in popularity so I thought I would read it so that I could offer a recommendation to my customers. But, I was wrong, the book was so incredibly helpful to me, and every relationship I have had since. Whether it be romantic, parent-child, sibling, friends, church family, or workmates, this simple concept can change the way you understand how to give and receive love.

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

First off, we all give and receive Love differently. We can have overlapping needs, and we all truly need a little of each to make a relationship work well, but we all receive Love in one main way. For me, it is Acts of Service. My Mom receives love through Gifts. And my Oldest Son needs Words of Affirmation, and my Oldest Daughter’s Love Language is Touch. My Sister receives love through Quality Time. If I did not know this about these people, I hold so dearly, I would be constantly performing Acts of Service to try to show my Love, and they would not understand because it is not their Love language.

What are the Five Love Languages, you Ask?

 

Receiving Gifts

For those whose Love Language is receiving gifts, you will find that gifts really matter. My Mom’s love language is receiving gifts and you can read more about that here. She is awesome because she knows how important gifts are to her, and she knows that I am not great at buying gifts for people. I must really think hard. Imagine my face red with steam coming out of my ears. Since this is the case, she usually tells me what she would like for a birthday or Christmas.

Because she has been doing this for years, I have worked to keep a list going with the types of gifts she likes. I highly recommend keeping a list of items you hear your loved one talk about, and when all else fails, ask them what they would want. No game playing, say, “I want to show you love, what would you like me to get you”. Then get it, wrap it up, make it special and present it.

Love Quote

Love Quote

Words of Affirmation

Words of Affirmation is a difficult one, especially for holidays. On a day to day basis, it is awesome. Simply taking the time to tell someone how much you love them, how wonderful they are, how they make the world a better place. But when it comes to a gift-giving season it can be a little difficult. It is sometimes hard to fill a box with positive words and give it to a loved one. So, what are a few things you can do for your loved one?

Write out a personal letter as a gift sharing how awesome they are, how much you love them, or a special thing about them that you have noticed. Be careful with your wording since people who are blessed by Words of Affirmation typically can fall into semantic games. Pray about it, write it out, and share your heart.

Make a print or poster of a poem that you write, or a poem or quote you’ve read that speaks to the person or your relationship with them. This can be posted on their wall or desk to remind them of your words for them.

Plan an afternoon lunch or walk where you will focus on sharing your feelings with them and hearing theirs. With Words of Affirmation, it is important to not just speak to the person but to hear them speak to you and understand. I often find that when I am talking with someone whose Love Language is Words of Affirmation, they like it when you verify that you hear and understand their words to you.

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

Physical Touch

When my daughter Victoria was young, she was a Mama’s girl. Whether I was doing laundry, working, or having coffee with a friend, she wanted to be next to me. Every night around 3 in the morning she would come into my bed for a cuddle. I would hold her for a while, fill her back up with cuddles, say a prayer, get a drink of water, and take her back to bed. In addition, she would come out every evening and ask me to rock her to sleep. I would swaddle her up tight, and rock her to sleep. Hugs and cuddles throughout every day. Whenever we were in the car she would say from the back seat, “Mama, holda my han”. So yes, I drove around for years holding a little tiny hand from the back seat. It was awesome.

Luckily, people don’t grow out of having the love language of Touch. To this day, she is always up for a cuddle, loves to sit next to people on the couch cuddled up in a blanket, and enjoys contact sports. One of the awesome things about my daughter, Victoria, is that she gives the world’s best hugs. If you ever have the opportunity to be hugged by her, you will consider yourself to be the most fortunate of people. When she hugs you, it is fully, completely, and you feel as if you have been completely revived, just because of being in her most capable arms of love for a moment.

What should you do as a gift for your person who receives love through Touch? Hold their hand when you are walking. Hug them, fully and often. Put your arm around them. Hold their face in your hands. Give them a shoulder massage. Cuddle. Play sports together. The list goes on and on. And again, if you are not sure what to do, ask them.

 

Quality Time

As I said, my Sister’s love language is Time. Since Time is not my Love Language, it was hard for me to understand how to be the best sister to her for a long time. But, once identified, I learned what matters most to her. When I say time, I truly mean devoted time. For instance, if I sat next to my sister for hours, but I was scrolling social media the entire time, that would not be Quality Time. To be speaking in the Love Language of someone who speaks Time, the time needs to be well spent. Often with my sister, this means a phone conversation where I am not constantly interrupted. Or, taking a trip together, where I am not constantly distracted by work or phone calls.

Realistically, you can’t always take an uninterrupted trip together, but you can make time for a focused visit. Whether you are going to a game or the movies together, planning an evening together, or going on a walk. Whatever it is, make sure you have planned  your time to be focused whether in conversation, or a shared activity. Focus in, and let the person guide the activity. And, again, ask them what they want and need.

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

Why Families Need the 5 Love Languages

Acts of Service

Now on to my favorite Love Language, Acts of Service. Why is it my favorite, because it is my Love Language. If your Love Language is Gifts or Touch you might wonder what someone who is fed by Acts of Service would desire. Well, I will share a few:

Doing the Dishes.
Changing the Oil in the Car either literally or taking the car to the shop.
Bringing in the Wood
Going to do the grocery shopping
Hanging a Picture
Making a Dinner for them
Planning the route of a vacation.

All these things have been done for me, and all of them made me feel so filled up with love! How should you plan to bless your love who is loved through Acts of Service? Listen to them. More than likely they will tell you what they would love. Often when my family asks me what I would like for Christmas, I will let them know what I would love for them to do for me. I can easily buy presents for myself if I wanted them, but I love it when someone cuts up the wood and stacks it so that I don’t have to. Literally, for me, that is better than a present wrapped up with a bow.

For the person who is loved through Acts of Service challenge yourself to come up with something that you can do for them to show your love. But, if you really are having a hard time coming up with something, ask. Ask your loved one if there is something you could do for them as a “gift”. And then do it, whatever it is. Without grumbling or complaining. And then when you are finished let them know what you did, and that you did it because you love them. It will matter to them.

 

The Books

I highly recommend getting one or more of these books from Amazon, so I am including the links. We read the book, Five Love Languages for Kids when my kids were little. It helped our whole family to understand our Love Languages, what our needs were, and how to Love each other. I have included several different links below so that you can get the book that your family most needs now. You will find that the books give such a wealth of information that will become invaluable as you learn about your family, and their needs.

So, What is your Love Language? Share in the comments below and what makes you feel most loved?

 

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  • Ramae Hamrin
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    February 7, 2019 at 11:10 AM

    I agree! It is really important to understand the love languages of not just our significant other but our children and parents as well. Even our pets and friends!

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:13 PM

      Yes! I totally agree! I want to make sure to love my family and friends in the language they receive in.

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  • jen
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    February 7, 2019 at 12:28 PM

    I have always been fascinated with this concept. Very interesting

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:12 PM

      Me too!

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  • Akiko
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    February 7, 2019 at 12:41 PM

    All very important aspects of relationships to keep in mind, especially when we are all so busy! But very interesting to figure out which one of these might be most important for each person in your family!

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:11 PM

      Yes! It is great for busy families. I am often very busy, so I want to make sure that the effort I am making is in the right language.

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  • Amy @ Orison Orchards
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    February 7, 2019 at 1:04 PM

    These love languages are SO critical, because when we show love in a language that a person doesn’t respond to, he can STILL not feel loved! Your synopses are really helpful. I think my favorite of those books is the 5 love languages of children.

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:10 PM

      Yes! I agree! And I want all of my kids and now grandkids to know how much I love them.

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  • Tricia Snow
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    February 7, 2019 at 1:27 PM

    Interesting post! I never thought of this being for kids too!

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:08 PM

      Yes! it is great for them as well!

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  • Jul
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    February 7, 2019 at 1:55 PM

    This is a great article.

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:08 PM

      Thanks!

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  • Laurie Clayton
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    February 7, 2019 at 2:59 PM

    Excellent article and reminders of everything we should be doing daily! Thanks for the post!

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:03 PM

      Thank You and You are welcome!

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  • LEIGH ANN
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    February 7, 2019 at 3:12 PM

    I just learned about these this week. Great tools for successful relationships. ❤

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:01 PM

      Yes! Very much so!

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  • Karie
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    February 7, 2019 at 3:30 PM

    I love these books some of the greats! It is so helpful in raising kids… I wish they could understand mine (acts of service) and do their chores. lol We have done a family meeting teaching them these but one day they will catch on to it. lol

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      February 11, 2019 at 4:01 PM

      They will catch on eventually! My kids are 18 -25. I love that my oldest comes over to cut wood or work on the house because he knows how much it makes me feel loved. His love language is words so I make sure to thank him and talk about how awesome his work was. All of my kids do this, and I feel so loved.

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  • Anna
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    February 7, 2019 at 4:18 PM

    It is so imporant to say all the time to the loved ones how much we love them. We assume they know it and we tend to forget to simply say it. And I am sure the books are amazing! Will put on my reading list

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:59 PM

      Yes they are great! And yes, we need to tell and show each other how much we love each other. It is too easy to fall out of the habit if we don’t pay attention.

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  • Hollysbirdnest
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    February 7, 2019 at 6:13 PM

    We all accept and receive love differently, this is a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing your insight on a subject that not everyone thinks about!

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    • 7thyearproductions@gmail.com
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      February 11, 2019 at 3:58 PM

      You are welcome! I find it so interesting and useful.

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  • Lisa
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    February 7, 2019 at 9:09 PM

    After discovering my love language, I was able to understand my mood and desires much better. It really is helpful for everyone in the family to know each other’s love language to improve communication and love. Thank you!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:54 PM

      It is so good. If we don’t know what our love language is then we have a harder time understanding why we are not feeling loved.

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  • Bailey
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    February 8, 2019 at 5:27 AM

    YEs! It’s so important to truly see those around us and love them as they would like to be loved!!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:53 PM

      Truly yes!

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  • Colleen
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    February 8, 2019 at 6:42 AM

    Acts of Service is mine too! When I first heard about the 5 Love Languages, I thought mine was Touch — but this was before I was in a relationship and after I got into relationships I learned that Acts of Service is really what speaks to me. At times I have so much going on that it literally takes the stress out of me when I come home and the husband has taken care of all the chores and I don’t have to worry about a dang thing.
    I hadn’t thought about using the 5 Love Languages for non-romantic relationships, though, so that’s a good tip!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:52 PM

      That is so wonderful when someone does the chores! It always makes me feel so very loved.

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  • Katie
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    February 8, 2019 at 6:46 AM

    I never thought about this being for kids too. It makes 100% sense!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:51 PM

      It is interesting to see with kids. My kids are now 18 and up, and their language has not changed.

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  • Yolanda
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    February 8, 2019 at 7:08 AM

    As I read this I’m thinking about my family and trying to figure out what their love language is. I think I should ask them! I also am not quite sure what mine is – as I feel like I’m a combination of quality time and physical touch. So interesting! I need to get one of these books.

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:51 PM

      It is really interesting. In the books, there are quizzes to help you figure out your language.

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  • Junell DuBois
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    February 8, 2019 at 8:05 AM

    It is so important to understand love languages. Everyone in our family is different!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:34 PM

      That sounds like our family! We are all so very different, but it really helps that we know each other’s languages.

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  • Jessica
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    February 8, 2019 at 9:41 AM

    We are working on this with our kids and our marriage. Great read!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:34 PM

      That is great! I think it is so valuable.

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  • Angela Greven
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    February 8, 2019 at 12:39 PM

    Such an interesting post, and when I think about the people in my life (including me lol) it totally makes sense. I’m an acts of service type without a doubt, always have been. Thanks so much for sharing a really enlightening read 🙂

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:33 PM

      I am glad you enjoyed it! I truly believe it is enlightening!

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  • Laura
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    February 8, 2019 at 5:45 PM

    Such a sweet post! Great tips!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:32 PM

      Thanks!

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  • Kim
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    February 8, 2019 at 7:43 PM

    I love this! I remember reading the 5 love languages a long time ago. I’ll have to apply it to my family!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:31 PM

      Yes, I reread it every couple of years. It is always eye-opening.

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  • Kayella
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    February 8, 2019 at 7:59 PM

    Learning about the five love languages is so helpful in understanding how people express love differently. This is so important in understanding relationships!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:31 PM

      Yes, I truly believe it makes a huge difference.

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  • Dee
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    February 8, 2019 at 8:07 PM

    I took the quiz and it has really helped me understand how I communicate and the best way for me to feel appreciated and how to communicate with others with different “love language.”

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:30 PM

      Yes, the quiz is a great tool!

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  • Sandi
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    February 9, 2019 at 5:50 AM

    This concept is new to me. Thank you for sharing. It is definitely intriguing.

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:30 PM

      Yes, it is really a great concept.

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  • Mom Life Optimized
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    February 9, 2019 at 6:28 AM

    I totally agree with you! This is one of the best books I’ve ever read that I have continued to use through my marriage and even with my kids!

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:29 PM

      Yes! I have used in business and friendships as well!

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  • Pauline Reynolds
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    February 10, 2019 at 10:31 AM

    Everyone is different, so it’s important to understand everyone receives and reciprocates differently. The five love languages have taught me alot.

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      February 11, 2019 at 3:29 PM

      Yes, this is very true! I learned so much from this book.

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  • Susan Franklin
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    February 11, 2019 at 3:41 PM

    We love the “love languages” and it’s so true that once you learn to speak the language of another person (whether, spouse, family or friend) your connection and communication improves – the love tanks are filled. I’m with you on the gifts – I’m terrible at gift-giving. I really love the idea of listening and writing down the gift ideas! Thanks for sharing!

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  • Kathryn at QuestFor47
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    February 11, 2019 at 7:30 PM

    Love languages are SO important, especially with families. I especially like the idea of teaching children how to give back at a young age.

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  • Amanda
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    February 12, 2019 at 9:49 AM

    Such a great idea! My daughter had us all take a quiz to find out what our love languages are. I didn’t realize hers was words of affirmation so now I am able to show her love the way she needs to be shown.

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  • Nicki
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    February 14, 2019 at 7:43 AM

    This is so great! I really need to read a couple of these books!

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  • T.M. Brown
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    February 14, 2019 at 2:44 PM

    Knowing how one thinks and what makes another tick is critical in maintaining solid relationships. We read the 5 Love Languages book within the last year and it has been of help. We still need to be more diligent on remembering what it all means, but this post has me really wanting to explore the boys’ love languages so I can better serve them as their mom.

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  • Dennis
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    February 19, 2019 at 3:43 PM

    Teaching children to give rather than receive is so important these days. Somehow this art gets lost at times.

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  • Lana
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    April 11, 2019 at 7:36 AM

    I love this! I think it is so important. I have read the 5 Love Languages that focuses more on marriage. I think the concept of using the 5 Love Languages with your children is really important. They are little individuals too, with their own preferences.

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